Your favorite bands Movies you’ve seen recently Your pets Your siblings What you did over the weekend or what you’re going to do next weekend Your plans for the upcoming vacation
Okay, if she introduces a personal topic and is game for talking about it, then you can pursue it and see where it goes, but still try to stay on your toes. Check out the girl’s facial expressions and body language. If she backs away or looks upset when you ask her something that you thought was pretty simple, then she might actually view it as a sensitive topic.
Smiling is especially important when you first start talking to the girl and at the end of the conversation. It’s important to start off and to finish strong.
Her favorite hobbies and interests Her favorite bands, books, or TV shows Her favorite subjects in school Her dream job Her best friends Her plans
Just one compliment per conversation is a good goal. You don’t want her to feel like she’s smothered with compliments, or like you don’t really mean what you say.
Talking about something you share can lead you to open up, see that you can have an exciting conversation, and to talk about new topics. For example, you can start by talking about how much you both love the 49ers, and then you can share your craziest stories about visiting their stadium, and from there, you may end up discussing your favorite things to do in San Francisco, and so on. Let the things you both share come up naturally instead of trying too hard to ask her if she likes the same things you do. Keep things open ended, so the conversation doesn’t shut down if it turns out she doesn’t share your interests. For example, instead of saying, “Did you see Frozen? That’s my new favorite movie,” you can say, “Have you seen anything interesting lately?"[10] X Research source
Don’t ask her questions that can only be answered with a “yes” or a “no” and ask open-ended questions instead, so she has room to talk. Try “What do you think about…” instead of “Do you think that…”
This is a creative way to keep the girl’s interest and to keep her talking. She’ll be impressed by how perceptive you are.
If you talk about yourself the whole time, then you’ll look self-involved, and she won’t want to keep talking to you.
If she’s not too elaborate when she discusses her interests, then you can share yours, as well.
She doesn’t have to know everything about you by the end of your ten or fifteen minute conversation. But she should walk away with at least one or two interesting facts about you. If you were just making small talk the whole time, then it would be hard to get to know each other on a real level.
If you’re trying too hard, then the girl will be able to tell. Your goal should be to make her see that you like talking to her without showing that you think your conversation is a big deal.
You may feel like griping, and you can do it a little bit if you and the girl can bond over something that annoys both of you, but try to save your negative thoughts for someone who knows you a little better.
You don’t need to act like you’re the most interesting guy in the world or that you’re hot enough to be a movie star; just act like you’re happy with being you and the rest will follow. There’s a difference between bragging and being confident. If you brag too much, the girl will be turned off. [14] X Research source
If you’re really feeling bold and the conversation has gone super well, you can even work up the courage to ask her to hang out again.
