Looking at, rubbing, or playing with private parts Putting each other’s private parts together Taking, looking at, or sharing photos of private parts Talking about private parts for fun

Even if it’s not sexual, there needs to be permission. For example, if your bottom needs wiping, you’re allowed to say “I want to do it myself” or “I only want a certain person to do it. "

If no semen goes inside the vagina, then pregnancy can’t happen. If people want to have this kind of sex, but they are not ready for a baby, they can use protection. Birth control pills and condoms are examples.

People can only get STIs from sex. If you have never had sex, you can’t have an STI. (You can have other sicknesses, though. ) If you are going to have sex with a new person, then both of you should get tested by a doctor first to make sure that you are both healthy enough. Protection can’t stop all of the STIs. You still need to get tested. If you think you got sick from sex, go to a doctor right away. The sooner you figure out what’s wrong, the easier it is to fix it.

Some people have health problems that cause sex to hurt, like vaginismus. Talk to your doctor if you think something could be wrong.

Close the door. Lock it if you can. If there’s a mess, clean it up. Use soap and water if needed. Do it in the bedroom at home. Don’t do it in a public place. Do it in private. Don’t let any children or teenagers see you masturbate. It might creep them out. They are too young for that.

Most families do not like talking about sex at the dinner table. Some friends like to talk about sex with each other. This is okay if everyone is comfortable with it. If somebody gets too embarrassed, change the subject. Some people are very shy about sex and don’t like talking about it. They don’t have to. It’s better to talk about sex with someone else.

If someone pressures you, you can say “I get to make my own choices. Please stop trying to tell me what to do. " Walk away if you want. You don’t have to listen to them. Never pressure anybody else. They get to decide what’s best for them. If someone tries to pressure you to have sex with them, that person is really creepy. Get away from them and tell an adult you trust.

Sometimes people will try to tell you what to do, because they feel very insecure. You don’t have to listen to them. The only evil thing would be trying to make someone have sex with you when they don’t want to or are not old enough.

Some people want to wait until marriage to have sex. Others don’t. Having sex with strangers is usually a bad idea. The stranger might have an STI that could get you sick. (The stranger might not even know that they have an STI. ) Some people have “open relationships,” where the rules are different. This is only if they choose to do that.

Sometimes, people who like sex don’t want it on some days. That’s okay. Maybe they feel like cuddling, or watching a movie, or going on a date, or doing something else instead. Ask what they are in the mood for. If you say “I don’t want sex” and someone gets mad at you, that person is creepy and you should get away from them. Always respect other people’s choices. If you want to have sex with someone, but they don’t feel like it, don’t pester them. This will make them upset, and it’s creepy.

Some people think it is okay for older teenagers to have sex with each other. Other people think it is not okay.

Do they understand sex? Can they say “yes” and “no” easily? Do they actually want sex? (Maybe they can have it but they don’t want to. )

If you want to know if somebody wants to have sex, just ask. Ask questions like “Would you like to do this?” or “Do you like it when I touch you there?” or “Do you want to keep doing this?” If someone tries to force you to have sex or won’t stop pestering you, say “you’re creepy!” and get away from them.

Some bad people try to rape people with disabilities, because they think that disabled people are easy targets. This isn’t your fault. Rape isn’t your fault if it happens to you. The bad person chose to do this to you, even though it is wrong. It is their fault, not yours. You can tell the police if you want to. The person who hurt you might go to jail. Or, if you don’t want that, you can tell the people who look after you, so they can help keep you safe from that person. Not all people are good listeners. If someone doesn’t believe you, or says it is your fault, they are a bad listener. A good listener believes you when you tell the truth.

Some websites are called “porn” websites, because they show pictures or videos of people having sex. Porn websites can be weird, and they aren’t a good way to learn about sex.

Scarleteen is a well-known sex ed website.